With every intimate relationship we have there is a psychic cord created. Some of these cords are more positive and loving than others. A psychic cord is an invisible string of energy that holds a strong emotional pull or force with another person.

These cords can be developed with a partner, boyfriend/girlfriend, family, friend and even with coworker and will leave an emotional imprint on us. It can be good, bad or combination of both.  Some of these cords will be positive, silver cords where we will feel love and a deep spiritual connection to that person around them or just thinking of them.

Other cords can be completely negative in which whenever we think of that person we only have negative thoughts and feel very negatively emotionally charged around them. Relationships in where there was abuse, deceit, betrayal or trauma develop negative psychic cord attachments. Negative cords are usually black or grey looking. You can also have a combination of positive/negative cords attached to the same person.

How You Can Identify If You Have a Negative Cord Attachment(s) :

-You have a difficult or challenging relationship with someone and can easily be angered by this individual for no reason, i.e. just the mere thought or image of them angers you or makes you cringe

-Blocked emotionally/financially/career purpose, not able to get the life/career you want or achieve those life goals

-Negative pattern in romantic relationships or same pattern with different people or attract the same type of negative characteristics in people.

-Relative who irritates/angers/annoys you and you can’t stand to be around them?

Location of Psychic Cords:

Sacral Chakra- Romantic cords are attached here usually and a person may experience stomach/intestinal problems and women may have health problems in the womb.

Base Chakra- extra weight on hips/thighs used as a protection from those cords. Spiritual healing can help solve this.

Lower back area- Cords here can block us financially, upon removal we can be put back on the right path

Psychic Cords and toxic relationships can create huge emotional/financial stress for us and health problems. Cutting these cords can create new beginnings for us and end that negative attachment to the past, person and old way of being or reacting to certain situations.

When you let go of these attachments to the past, you allow yourself the individual freedom to move forward. Do you ever have dreams or visions of that person? Or receive random texts or emails, bump into old friends still connected to this person or even see them somewhere unwillingly?

This energetic cord can hold you back from moving forward and creating new healthy relationships and patterns of behavior. It may not feel good to cut a cord or let go of a toxic relationship but in the end you will be doing yourself and that person a favor soulfully.  Remember, “To forgive someone is set that prisoner free and that prisoner is you”.

When cutting cords remember to practice assertiveness and set your boundaries should that person try to push themselves back into your life. One of the most important things I’ve learned is you have to  teach that person how you want to be treated and “No” means No. If they continue to cross boundaries and just don’t get it, take action.

Don’t allow yourself to fall back into old patterns of behavior or react to them in the same way as in the past. Reacting in the way in which they expect you to will only reaffirm their perception of you. But if you react in the complete opposite way it completely shifts the energy. For example, One of my client had a negative cord attached to her father.  Just the sight of him makes her stomach turn, mainly out of fear. After cutting the cord, not only does it shifted the energy and perception of that relationship with her father but even the relationship between them is good now.

Also, cutting cords isn’t enough. Take steps to heal yourself after such an intense experience. There are various ways to heal and people have different ways to cope. I personally have found healing through consistent therapy, journaling, meditating and spending time in nature. I also took classes in things I wanted to work on such as my self-confidence, finding my inner voice and empowerment.

These relationships can make you feel drained or less of yourself after the interaction. You may feel emotionally exhausted and angry which can be signs that you are in a toxic relationship. You may want to confront the individual and try to change the direction of the relationship and let them know how they make you feel. If the person is unresponsive and just criticizes or blames you, it may be time to cut the cord and let that relationship go or assert yourself and take your space.