Each person we meet along our path is an opportunity for our soul’s evolution. They show up with a message from our higher self or a lesson necessary for our development, either from a past life or to be dealt with in this lifetime. Each of these people is a soul mate, however, they have very different purposes.
It’s confusing and frustrating to have undeniable chemistry with someone, even feeling they are “the one,” yet it isn’t working out. A magnetic force/connection seems to exist between the two of you. You could even find yourself ignoring your intuition and ethical code with this intoxicating, all-consuming, and addicting pull.
Your Heart Aches
It was either a perfect romance that ended (and all communication stopped), a romance that can’t seem to begin, or it’s an up/down, back-and-forth, off/on again experience. There were commitment issues, even cheating, and/or it seems impossible to leave this disrupting and unhealthy relationship. You can’t seem to get them off your mind and even more distressing, no matter what happened, your heart aches for this person. You cannot seem to move on and there’s a deep need to resolve things or at least have closure.
These are examples of a past life or karmic connection, and you are not meant to be together in this lifetime. This person may actually have represented unfinished business needed to complete lessons for your soul’s growth and to help you bring in your soul mate. Understanding the differences between a past life connection and a soul mate allows us to release these connections and move on. You don’t have to stop loving this person or forget about them. Just for now, put them in a special place in your heart, appreciate what they brought into your life, and place them on a shelf. As you open up to connecting with your soul mate, the intensity from a karmic or past life connection fades.
Our childhood environment, influences and role models,determine our definition of love. This definition continues to bring us what is familiar. As we learn lessons and grow, our very vibration raises our ability to attract people to our higher frequency. Our life partner can then come in, as we have done our work to receive them.
Something Needs Healing
A past life connection or karmic relationship often triggers something needing healing, forgiveness and growth. These relationships often stir up heavy emotions, presenting the opportunities to progress and to step into a life expansion and soul advancement.
We’ve all experienced hardships, traumas, forms of abuse and adverse circumstances. Life can seem very unfair until we allow and receive the gifts of healing, growth, wisdom and the ability to help others.
A soul mate is a well-matched person who walks with you as a friend or in a love relationship. A soul mate has a subtle, comfortable, stable-feeling energetic connection. It feels as though you are home and, it can take some getting used to. It’s very different from an intense, drama-stimulated chemistry connection that can throw you off balance.
With a soul mate, there’s a deep connection with a sense of peace and trust in one another. You feel heard, understood and supported. You share similar desires and interests, and have a solid friendship. You feel encouraged and uplifted. You are each other’s priority while still attending to your own personal, spiritual and physical needs.
You will still have lessons to learn together, adjustments to make as you come together as a couple, and continued soul growth and then shedding old patterns, etc. The difference is you work through things, it’s a healthy relationship and you grow together.
Past lives lovers and soul mates have a very special bound that never dies. The memory of their common live together can come back in a flash when they are together especially. Being in each other’s presence can bring back many pleasant memories and much love, passion, and burning of the sacred flame for both of you.
The joy of being in each other’s company is limitless and eternal, even when one has blinders on in order to prevent seeing the bigger picture. One just has to pay attention to what the heart tells on one person who is dear to it. There can be occasional memory flashbacks or even heart flashbacks, which can lead to total confusion if one is unable to handle such things and understand the strength and passion coming from such relationships.
Intertwined, the two lovers are inseparable on the higher realms. They will not always recognise each other while on Earth in human bodies under normal circumstances. Perhaps for a few briefs moments there is an inner recognition on both sides. This moment is so brief, that one would have to be very awake to recognise it. Like a flash of light, the speed is too quick to be caught by us under normal circumstances.
However the more the past lives lover will find in each other’s’ company, the more memories will come back. It is even possible to withdraw from a past live lover by avoiding being in the presence of that person for too long. Sometimes one of the past lives lovers need to not know too much as it were, needs space and to focus on this life exclusively, without interference from a powerful loving past lives relationship with another. However ultimately, of course, with true genuine love, there is no sense of jealousy, of possession at all. All that matters to a true lover is the other person’s happiness whether in this life or in another life.
A playful and caring relationship will always be present between past lives lovers, a complicity, a clear understanding of each other’s feelings and needs.
It is also possible that the physical bodies search to be in each other’s companies, instinctively and intuitively. Higher spirit will decide when to awake both beings to what and who they are for one another, and again this could possibly take years or never take place if spirit decides it is for the best not to allow any further knowledge. It may be for the best to allow each other to continue on their respective journey of learning and discovery.
There can be highs and extreme lows, if one decides not to let the other go and be totally free. One has to allow the other to live his or her life totally free. It is vital to understand that soul mate relationships are never about control, power struggles. The heart just gives love freely and unconditionally to the other.
This is a perfect example of never dying love, however, it is important to let go of such relationship and allow the learning experiences from the present life to take place without interference in the vast majority of times, unless there is a karmic debt, which remains to be settled.